Plan something special just for you during the holidays. Create space to enjoy the simple things you love about the holidays.
Make a quick list of things you love this time of year. Pretend that there isn’t a to-do list connected to this. What do you love? Look over your list and choose one or two and create spaces to make them happen.
There’s something about the lights of our Christmas tree at night that invite in a sense of stillness for me. I love to simply sit in the living room with just the lights of the tree on while I drink a cup of coffee/hot chocolate/tea. I breathe and try to let my thoughts rest as much as I can. When my thoughts are really restless, I’ll stand at the tree and look at the new ornaments that represent our family and how we are creating new family traditions. My family didn’t really do the ornament thing for the holidays which sucks but my creativity for the holidays along with my husband’s family beautiful ornaments passed down to us is a blessing and absolutely wonderful.
I love candles! When it starts to get dark so early, I begin to light candles, when I light them, I say a little blessing of gratitude for something that happened during my day. This pushes me to really notice the positives from the day. When I blow the candles out I say blessings of protection and love for my family & friends. My current favorites scented holiday candles are Christmas cookie & cranberry.
I’m one of those people who loves holiday music, lol, I even started listening to my playlist a week before Thanksgiving, but even if you aren’t a huge fan, there is probably at least one album out there that makes you smile. But the one song by Nat King Cole “The Christmas Song” and “I’ll Be Home For Christmas” by Frank Sinatra always brings a wave of nostalgia that feels like home to me. I enjoy several Christmas songs from Temptations “Silent Night” to Beyonce but Nat King Cole and Frank Sinatra is what my sister & I listened to growing up. Create a holiday playlist for yourself that relaxes you to escape from the holiday madness.
You are allowed to feel all the feelings you want to feel. This time of year can bring up so much. From expectations to past hurts to hopes that this year your family won’t talk about (fill in your own family’s story here) to wishing your kids would all smile for the photo to missing loved ones. There’s a lot of feelings swirling. Try not to judge the feelings that are coming up for you. Let yourself feel them. Yes, you are allowed to feel sad. And yes, honey, you are allowed to feel happy and all the other things in between. You can even feel conflicting things at the same time. You get to choose. You can dwell. Or you can create your own experience this year. It might be hard to see that, but the choice is there for all of us.
The best way to put things in perspective is to take a few moments everyday to reflect on what you’re grateful for. Think of all the amazing people, places and things that you have in your life. There are people who have much less, so don’t get too worked up over the little things and do something kind for someone else during the holiday season. It’s all about self-care and letting things go every once in awhile.